What to Do If You Discover Suicidal Ideation in Your Teen

What to Do If You Discover Suicidal Ideation in Your Teen

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As a parent, discovering that your teen is experiencing suicidal ideation can be frightening. It’s important to remember that you are not alone, and there are steps you can take to support your child during this difficult time. In honor of National Suicide Prevention Month, we’ve put together the following guide to help you navigate this complex situation with care and compassion.

Understanding Suicidal Ideation

Before diving into how to respond, it’s crucial to understand what suicidal ideation means. It refers to thoughts about wanting to end one’s life, which can range from fleeting thoughts to detailed planning. This doesn’t always mean a person will act on these thoughts, but it is a serious warning sign that should not be ignored.

1. Stay Calm and Open-Minded

The first step upon discovering that your teen is having these thoughts is to stay calm. Your immediate reaction might be one of panic or fear, but it’s vital to create a safe space for open dialogue. Approach your teen with empathy and understanding. Let them know you are there to listen and support them without judgment.

2. Ask Direct Questions

It might feel uncomfortable, but asking your teen direct questions about their feelings is essential. Use open-ended questions to encourage them to share. For example, you might say, “I’ve noticed you seem really down lately. Can you share what’s been on your mind lately or tell me how you’re feeling?” This shows your concern and provides them an opportunity to express what they’re going through.

3. Listen Actively

Once your teen starts to open up, listen actively. Avoid interrupting or offering immediate solutions. Instead, validate their feelings by acknowledging how hard things must be for them. Phrases like “That sounds really difficult” or “It’s normal to feel overwhelmed in a situation like this,” can help them feel heard and understood.

4. Take It Seriously

Always take suicidal ideation seriously. Even if your teen downplays their feelings or expresses them lightly, it’s crucial to acknowledge the gravity of the situation. Express your concern and assure them that it’s okay to talk about these feelings. Let them know that their thoughts are valid and important.

5. Encourage Professional Help

While your support is invaluable, it’s equally important to involve professionals who are trained to handle such situations. Encourage your teen to speak to a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor. If they are reluctant, offer to help them find someone or accompany them to their first appointment. This shows your commitment to their well-being and may ease their fears about seeking help.

6. Create a Safety Plan

Developing a safety plan can be a crucial step in preventing a crisis. Collaborate with your teen to create a plan that outlines steps to take when they feel overwhelmed. This could include identifying warning signs, coping strategies, and a list of people they can reach out to for support. Make sure the plan is easily accessible, such as on their phone or a visible spot at home.

7. Limit Access to Means

If your teen is actively expressing suicidal thoughts, it’s important to limit their access to means that could facilitate self-harm. This might involve removing items such as sharp objects, medications, or firearms from the home. It’s a difficult but necessary step to ensure their immediate safety.

8. Foster Open Communication

Maintain open lines of communication moving forward. Regularly check in with your teen about how they’re feeling. Encourage them to share their thoughts, and reassure them that it’s okay to talk about their mental health. By fostering an environment of openness, you help to break the stigma surrounding mental health issues.

9. Be Patient and Understanding

Recovery is often not linear, and there may be ups and downs along the way. Be patient with your teen as they navigate their feelings and healing process. Let them know that you are there for them, no matter what. Celebrate their small victories, and remind them that seeking help is a sign of strength.

10. Take Care of Yourself

Supporting a teen in crisis can be emotionally taxing. Don’t forget to prioritize your own mental health. Seek support from friends, family, or professional counselors for yourself. By taking care of your own emotional well-being, you will be better equipped to support your teen.

Conclusion

If your teen is experiencing suicidal ideation, it is critical that they receive the support of a mental healthcare professional. ROWI offers a Teen Partial Hospitalization Program (PHP) and Teen Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) to provide comprehensive care tailored to your teen’s needs, helping them navigate their feelings in a safe and supportive environment. If you’re concerned about your teen’s mental health, don’t hesitate to reach out. Contact us today for a free assessment and take the first step towards ensuring your teen receives the help they deserve. You are not alone on this journey, and there is hope for healing and recovery.

Remember, every child is different, so be flexible and attentive to their needs as they adjust. 

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